Easing the transition back to work after having a child

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If you’re returning to work after having a child, you’ll soon have two sets of responsibilities to juggle. While some new parents manage it all without missing a beat, others may struggle to balance their double duties. As challenging as it may sometimes feel, there are many things you can do to help make the experience easier.

The more you can prepare in advance, the easier the transition will be for everyone.

Easing back into the workplace

As your return date approaches, begin to reconnect with your colleagues. Consider inviting them for lunch to catch up on news, calling your supervisor to get a handle on current projects, or trying to arrange for staff emails to be accessed at home. Or ask your employer to use one or more of your Keeping in Touch days. Available to employees on unpaid parental leave, you can use up to ten of these days to stay up-to-date with your workplace, and/or refresh your skills before you return to work.

Other strategies for a smooth return include:

• Seeking out the counsel of friends who have recently had a baby and have returned to work.
• Taking a little time to review your wardrobe. You may find your previous work attire no longer fits.
• If you’re breastfeeding, you’ll need to choose clothes that allow for easy nursing or breast pumping, and don’t forget to protect clothes against nursing leaks.
• If possible, begin your childcare arrangements a few weeks prior to returning to work, even on a part-time basis. This will help ease both you and your child into your new routine. It can also ensure you have given your childcare provider all the information and items they’ll need.

Planning with your partner

It’s important that your spouse is fully involved in your transition back to the workplace. Early communication will give you both support and help to make this transition easier. Discuss tasks that may be more difficult to cover with both of you working, and try to share responsibilities equally. Perhaps some tasks can be done less often. You may both need to give up on perfectionist standards for a while. If you can afford it, you may want to discuss hiring help for cleaning or garden maintenance.

Consider how you will share childcare responsibilities. Perhaps one partner can drop the baby off or stay home in the morning until the person who will be caring for the child throughout the day arrives. The other partner might be able to handle the evening pick up.

Making emergency plans

Having backup plans in place will make it easier to cope when things don’t go smoothly.

• Review emergency childcare options close to your home or near your workplace to create a support system.
• Get to know neighbours with small children or the parents of other children at your nursery.
• Ask about the possibility of extended hours with your childcare provider.

Nursing at work

You can continue breastfeeding after returning to work. Be sure to nurse before you leave for work, as soon as you get home, and as often as needed at night. Provide some emergency formula or expressed milk for your child’s carer in case you must miss a feeding.

Upon returning to work, rent or buy a good breast pump. Look for portability, ease of cleaning, ease of use, and a setting for intermittent pressure, which is gentler on the breasts. Have plenty of nursing pads, disposable wipes, and paper towels at your workplace for easier clean up, plus tape or labels to mark containers of breast milk. If you don’t have access to a fridge, bring a small cooler with an ice pack.

Whether nursing or pumping, try wearing a nursing bra. They are much easier to undo. Keep a spare shirt or blouse at work just in case. Patterned or dark coloured blouses help mask the occasional leak.